If you’re looking for a marriage that’s always easy, you’re in the wrong covenant. Marriage isn’t about comfort. It’s about commitment. It’s about dying to yourself daily so something greater can be built. And let me tell you—nothing refines a man like covenant love.
Our springboard for today’s discussion is:
“I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God...” — Romans 12:1 (ESV)
Every day, we make a choice: will I serve myself, or will I serve the covenant God called me to protect? And I’ll be honest—there are days when selfishness creeps in. Days I’d rather retreat than engage. Days when my preferences feel more important than her needs.
But God didn’t call me to comfort. He called me to love like Jesus.
And Jesus didn’t serve when it was convenient. He gave everything. He bled for a bride that often rejected Him. That’s the model. That’s what I’m called to mirror.
Covenant love doesn’t walk away when it’s tired. It leans in. It doesn’t say, “What do I get out of this?” It says, “What can I give to this?”
I’m learning that the most Christlike thing I can do in my marriage isn’t to say the right words—it’s to show up when it’s hard. To lead when I’m weary. To choose her even when my flesh wants to choose ease.
Sacrifice builds intimacy. It builds trust. It says, “You matter more than my comfort.”
And every time you lay something down—your time, your ego, your plans—you’re not losing anything. You’re planting seeds that will bear fruit in your wife’s heart and in your own.
Question of the Day:
What’s one area of comfort you’ve been holding onto that’s getting in the way of deeper covenant commitment?
Mini Call to Action:
Lay it down. Today. Do the thing that costs you something. Serve where it’s inconvenient. Lead through sacrifice, not convenience.
Prayer:
Jesus, You gave everything for me. Teach me to love my wife with that same selfless spirit. Help me to lead by laying myself down—not just in the big moments, but in the small daily ones. In Your name, Amen.
Let’s Get to Work.
A covenant man doesn’t chase ease—he chases obedience. Step out of comfort. Step into covenant.
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