If there’s one area that gets misrepresented in the world—and honestly, even in the church—it’s the role of leadership in marriage. Somewhere along the line, “head of the household” got twisted into “king of the castle.” But that’s not how Jesus led. And if we’re going to lead like Him, it starts with this: service, not control.
Our springboard for today’s discussion is:
“For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give His life as a ransom for many.” — Mark 10:45 (ESV)
Guys, Jesus had every right to take a throne. He had the power, the authority, and the position. But He chose a towel. He bent down and washed the feet of the very people who would betray Him. That’s leadership. That’s greatness. And that’s our example.
As husbands, we don’t lead by demanding respect—we lead by earning trust. Leadership isn’t about control, it’s about responsibility. It’s not about making sure everyone does what we want—it’s about making sure we’re doing what God wants.
I’ve learned that the strongest thing I can do in my marriage is serve my wife. Not because she’s weak, but because Christ showed me what real strength looks like. Serving doesn’t make you less of a man—it proves you’re more like Jesus.
So what does that look like practically? Sometimes it means taking on more of the load when she’s overwhelmed. Sometimes it means asking how she’s really doing—and listening without fixing. Sometimes it’s just doing the dishes with no expectations.
If we’re going to be leaders, we have to be servants first. Because Jesus never separated the two.
Question of the Day:
Are you leading your home like a servant—or trying to rule it like a boss?
Mini Call to Action:
Today, ask your wife one simple question: “How can I serve you this week?” Then follow through—without strings, without ego. Just obedience.
Prayer:
Lord, help me to lead like You—with a towel in hand, not a crown on my head. Strip away my pride and teach me to serve my wife with humility, love, and strength. Amen.
Let’s Get to Work.
Leadership isn’t about having the final say—it’s about having the first sacrifice. Show up. Kneel low. Lead high.
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