I wonder about being transparent and honest with one’s spouse. I know that it would be ideal but anecdotally, I’ve been shattered for the last 6 months by my spouse’s confession of continual lust (not porn or adultery). It’s not the same as actual adultery but Jesus said it is, in a way. It affects my affection and respect and our intimacy. I would rather not have known about it (blissful ignorance) and just assumed in a general way that yes we all struggle in many ways, including myself. My spouse is very conscientious and felt confession to me was necessary. What do you think?
First...let me say that I do understand. It is one thing to know that you have cancer...and another thing to be TOLD and confirmed that you have cancer (NOTE: NOT saying your spouse is a cancer).
Going about your day not knowing that you have cancer can REALLY have it's downside such as having the ability to cure it through a change in lifestyle, prayer, or a specialist.
My point...your spouse told you. Now you have the ability to fix it. Lifestyle change, Prayer, a specialist.
BUT...the MOST IMPORTANT THING THAT YOU CAN DO...RIGHT NOW....is forgive your spouse. Forgive them, take it to God, pray together and ask Him for forgiveness (yes...you too), and here is the second CLUE: GIVE IT TO HIM!!!
One of the greatest mistakes we as Christians...is to ruminate.
(Rumination involves repetitive thinking or dwelling on negative feelings and distress and their causes and consequences. i.e. like a dog that returns to his vomit: Proverbs 26:11)
When you give it to God...HE OWNS IT. When you talk or think about it...you take it away from Him and reclaim it's ownership. (BAD THING)
For now...go into repair mode.
My question to you is..."What can YOU do in the next 3 days to:
A. Show your forgiveness
B. Rekindle the fire
(CLUE: Put God FIRST in your relationship)
Finally, here is our gift to you. Get this 100% free to you resource. (we already paid for it) and study, study, study, about marriage & relationships.
Thank you for your thoughtful response. Yes I know you are correct and hearing it a different way really helps me. My spouse is getting counseling, prayer, and memorizing Scripture and doing many things to overcome. To stop ruminating and having to forgive continuously are definitely issues for me. I will check out the resource. Thank you again.
Today’s prayer for marriage stuck out to me today.
I wonder about being transparent and honest with one’s spouse. I know that it would be ideal but anecdotally, I’ve been shattered for the last 6 months by my spouse’s confession of continual lust (not porn or adultery). It’s not the same as actual adultery but Jesus said it is, in a way. It affects my affection and respect and our intimacy. I would rather not have known about it (blissful ignorance) and just assumed in a general way that yes we all struggle in many ways, including myself. My spouse is very conscientious and felt confession to me was necessary. What do you think?
First...let me say that I do understand. It is one thing to know that you have cancer...and another thing to be TOLD and confirmed that you have cancer (NOTE: NOT saying your spouse is a cancer).
Going about your day not knowing that you have cancer can REALLY have it's downside such as having the ability to cure it through a change in lifestyle, prayer, or a specialist.
My point...your spouse told you. Now you have the ability to fix it. Lifestyle change, Prayer, a specialist.
BUT...the MOST IMPORTANT THING THAT YOU CAN DO...RIGHT NOW....is forgive your spouse. Forgive them, take it to God, pray together and ask Him for forgiveness (yes...you too), and here is the second CLUE: GIVE IT TO HIM!!!
One of the greatest mistakes we as Christians...is to ruminate.
(Rumination involves repetitive thinking or dwelling on negative feelings and distress and their causes and consequences. i.e. like a dog that returns to his vomit: Proverbs 26:11)
When you give it to God...HE OWNS IT. When you talk or think about it...you take it away from Him and reclaim it's ownership. (BAD THING)
For now...go into repair mode.
My question to you is..."What can YOU do in the next 3 days to:
A. Show your forgiveness
B. Rekindle the fire
(CLUE: Put God FIRST in your relationship)
Finally, here is our gift to you. Get this 100% free to you resource. (we already paid for it) and study, study, study, about marriage & relationships.
https://app.rightnowmedia.org/join/MyR2B
Thank you for your thoughtful response. Yes I know you are correct and hearing it a different way really helps me. My spouse is getting counseling, prayer, and memorizing Scripture and doing many things to overcome. To stop ruminating and having to forgive continuously are definitely issues for me. I will check out the resource. Thank you again.